The practice of surrender is an exercise recommended by many of the most recognizable spiritual gurus. We hear that letting go of resistance and accepting the is-ness of the present moment is key to achieving a lasting inner peace.
I have also read much about the link between true creativity and spirituality. Eckhart Tolle says that “All true artists, whether they know it or not, create from a place of no-mind, from inner stillness.” In learning this I began to attempt to tap into my creative side. I thought that in doing this I would also be tapping into my own spiritual dimension. This is where my question appears. If I am being creative as a way of transcending my unhappy current state, is this actually a form of not surrendering to the realities of the present moment?
True creativity comes from stillness, but can creativity also lead to stillness?
One thing I had noticed about my life prior to being introduced to the spiritual dimension is that I had practically no outlet for creativity. There was no vehicle through which any artistic creation could emerge. By starting to write poetry I wanted to open that door and see what popped out.
However, poetry has become something I am hoping will lead me to a more enlightened state. Rather than enjoying the act of creating on it’s own I have burdened it with the task of transcendence and infinite wisdom. In fact, I find that all of my doing has become polluted with outcomes and expectations. I rarely do things out of a natural instinct, but instead look at how each task will affect my spiritual journey.
I need to go much deeper into surrender and make space for whatever comes next.
I still dream of writing a beautiful poem that touches many but to write beautiful poetry you need to see beautiful things. John Keats said “Beauty is truth, truth beauty”. Perhaps through surrender I will see truth.
True love is transcendental. Without recognition of the formless within yourself, there can be no true transcendental love. If you cannot recognize the formless in yourself, you cannot recognize yourself in the other. The recognition of the other as yourself in essence – not the form – is true love. As long as the conditioned mind operates and you are completely identified with it, there’s no true love. There may be substitutes, things that are called “love” but are not true love. For example, “falling in love”…perhaps most of us have experienced it. Maybe one or two at this moment are “in love”, and those who have experienced it have also experienced “falling out of love”.
We need to remember to understand [the difference between] true love and other forms of so-called love. We are in the relative as form, and in the absolute as formless consciousness. The two dimensions that the human being embodies are the ‘human’ and the ‘being’. The human is the form, the being is the formless, the timeless consciousness itself. It sometimes happens that the form has an affinity with other forms. It could happen for a number of reasons. One being that this form has come out of another form – called your mother – and so there is an affinity of this form with that other form. You have a love toward your mother that might be called ‘personal’. Another aspect of affinity with another form is male/female. You can be drawn to another body in a sexual way, and it’s sometimes called “love”. Especially if the sexual act is denied long enough, it’s more likely to develop into obsessive love…so much so, that in cultures where you could not have sex until you were married, falling in love could be a huge thing and could lead to suicide. Naturally, there is an affinity of the male/female, the incompleteness of this form. The primary incompleteness of this form is that you are either a man or a woman. The oneness has become the duality of male/female.
The pull towards the other is an attempt to find wholeness, completeness, fulfillment through the opposite polarity, in an attempt to find the Oneness. That lies at the basis of the attraction. It’s to do with form, because on the level of form you are not whole – you are one half of the whole. One half of humanity is male, one half is female, roughly.
You have the attraction for the other, then there may be finding certain qualities in another human being that resonate with certain qualities in yourself. Or, if they don’t resonate, it may be the opposite that you feel drawn to. If you are a very peaceful person, maybe you feel drawn toward a dramatic person, or vice-versa. And again, you are hoping for some completion there. You can have an affinity with another form, which can be called ‘personal love’. If personal love is all that there is, then what is missing is the transcendental dimension of the formless – which is where true love arises. Is that part of the personal love, or is the personal level all that there is? That determines whether that so-called “love” is going to turn into something painful eventually, and frustrating, or if there is a deepening.
There may be an attraction that is initially sexual between two humans. If they start living together, this cannot endure for that long and be the fulfillment of the relationship. At some point, sexual/emotional [attraction] needs to deepen and the transcendental dimension needs to come in, to some extent, for it to deepen. Then true love shines through the personal. The important thing is that true love emanates from the timeless, non-formal dimension of who you are. Is that shining through the personal love that is to do with affinity of forms? If it is not, there is complete identification with form, and complete identification with form is ego.
Many times you may think “that’s it!” and after living together for a little while you realize “that was a mistake”, or “I was completely deluded”. Even in parent-children relationships, which is a very close bond on the level of form, if the transcendental dimension does not shine through, eventually the love between children and parents turns into something else. This is why so many people have very problematic relationships with their parents.
Some relationships may start as purely form-based, and then the other dimension comes in after a while. Perhaps only after a lot of problems, and perhaps you get close to a breakup, when suddenly there is a deepening and then you are able to bring in space.
The key is to ask, “Is there space in this relationship?” Or are there only thoughts and emotions? It’s dreadful prison to inhabit if you live with a person and all you have are thoughts and emotions. Occasionally you are okay, but there is disagreement, friction.
We need to acknowledge that there are personal affinities. But in themselves, they are never ultimately fulfilling. More often than not, they are a source of suffering. Love becomes a source of suffering when the transcendental is missing. How does the transcendent come in? By being spacious with the other. Which essentially means that you access the Stillness in yourself while you look at the other.
Not mental noise, not emotional waves. That does not mean that there cannot be emotions or thoughts, but there is something else present in the relationship. That applies not only to close personal relationships, but also to more superficial relationships at work.
With any human relationship, the question is, “Is there space?” It’s a pointer. Space is when thought becomes unimportant – even an emotion becomes unimportant.
When people live together, sometimes the other is no longer acknowledged in daily life because there is so much to do. If you wake up in the morning, is there a moment when you acknowledge the presence of the other?
It’s the most wonderful thing if you can be there for the other as space, rather than as a person. At this very moment, you can either be here as a person, or you can be here as the space.
What you are looking for, is where you are looking from.
“Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality.”
Since I have begun my spiritual journey I have come across a number of amazing online resources that have helped me tremendously in my spiritual development. Below I have listed the best ones out there. Please do check each and every one of them out for yourself.
Shots of Awe – This is a YouTube channel run by Jason Silva who develops these wonderful videos on a bi-weekly basis. The primary theme of his videos is, unsurprisingly, Awe. Experiencing awe is an amazing way of turning off your brain and letting your soul seep in. He has about 40 videos. Start with the one below and go from there.
Gautam Sachdeva – Gautam may be a lesser known spiritual teacher in the western part of the world but I look forward to watching every video he posts. My favourite is this one on non-attachment. His primary teacher was Ramesh Balsekar but he has also spent time with Nisargadatta’s translator offering some powerful insights on his teachings. Please check out and subscribe to his YouTube channel so you don’t miss anything!
Eckhart Tolle on YouTube – Perhaps the most relatable spiritual teacher in the world Eckhart Tolle led me into the spiritual realm. He holds regular retreats and then posts little snippets online free of charge. He used to host links to videos on his website but now his YouTube channel is the best source. However, for a modest fee on his website you can gain access to years of powerful spiritual teachings.
Mooji – I can not stress enough how amazing Mooji is as a spiritual teacher. He often says he teaches the lazy mans way to enlightenment. He posts loads of content and has a backlog of over 500 videos on his channel. Please check him out. You will not regret it.
Super Soul Sunday – Whether or not you are an Oprah fan (I am) she has given the spiritual movement a lot of mainstream credibility. The Twitter account linked above is a great avenue for connecting with your favourite spiritual teacher. Her initial sessions with Eckhart Tolle was watched online by millions worldwide. She is actually redoing those classes with Eckhart every sunday. Check out that Youtube playlist here.
Tragedy and Hope – This YouTube channel is how I discovered the brilliant lectures of Alan Watts. Whomever runs this channel combines his teachings set to a backdrop of amazing footage and music to maximize the impact. My absolute favourite is the one below:
The Honest Guys – This is a guided meditation/relaxation channel. At first the accent in the meditations can be a little distracting. But once you’re over that they are actually quite brilliant. The relaxation sounds are excellent as well. Here’s one of my favourites:
There they are! Please let me know if you have other ones that I would enjoy.
Bonus Resource – This is my own collection of spiritual videos from all of these sources and more that I have posted on my blog. Please enjoy!